Stop Waiting for the Call. Make It.

One of my weekly happiness practices is simple: I reach out.
A text. A call. A quick check-in with someone I care about.
It’s not always the same person, but I rotate through a list of people I value.

This habit started when I worked at a senior center. I used to encourage elders to call their loved ones instead of sitting in silence, waiting, and then complaining that no one ever calls. I realized—if I really believe in connection, I better be living it too. So I started making the calls myself.

We’re Not Meant to Be Lone Wolves

Some people say they prefer to be alone, but let’s be real—that’s often just a protective mechanism. It’s easier to say “I’m better off solo” than to deal with the messiness of relationships. The more connected you are, the more people ask of you: time, attention, emotional energy. And yes, that can feel like too much if you haven’t learned the art of boundaries.

The key isn’t to avoid connection—it’s to get better at saying “yes” and “no” when it feels right. Not out of guilt. Not to avoid conflict. Just because it’s what you want.

People aren’t usually upset with your message—they’re upset with your tone. So say what you need to say with clarity and kindness, and keep it moving.

Feeling Lonely? You Have Power.

If you’re feeling disconnected, I say this with love: stop waiting.
“Nobody checks on me.”
“Nobody invites me.”
“I don’t have anyone.”

That’s victim language. And it keeps you stuck.

Connection doesn’t fall into your lap. You have to build it. Reach out. Initiate. Be the one who makes the move.

Take the First Step This Week

Call one person.
Invite someone out.
Host a little game night.
Plan a walk or a meetup that makes your spirit light up.

And if someone doesn’t vibe with you or never responds? That’s not a sign you’re unlovable. It just means they’re not your people. You’re not their cup of tea. Maybe they’re not yours either.

Keep reaching. Your people are out there.

Your Call to Action

Make one meaningful connection this week.
Text someone. Call someone. Invite someone. Be the spark.

~Maggie Hernandez-Knight